To All the Single Ladies

The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him."- Genesis 2:18

Many have told me that you can be happy as a single. You can serve God better as a single. Some people have said that you just need to be happy in your relationship with Jesus or your image comes from God and not from marriage. Be content. I have been content. I have ministered in ways my married friends can not. I have traveled to places that some would dream of. I have taken Seminary classes that most would be jealous of. There comes a time when those things are not enough. After a while like many single people you get sick of hearing and striving to do these things.

I read Genesis 2:18 and this went against everything those happily married people told me. If I am created as Eve than I am created for a purpose. That purpose is to satisfy the aloneness of my Adam. My job is to be a helper and fulfill the cultural mandate and ministry with my own Adam. As a women part of my purpose is to be married. God found a suitable mate for Adam and gave him Eve.

This may not be the way it happened but it is the way I would like to envision it. I see Adam in the most beautiful place ever, he is in Paradise. He is there all alone. Trust me I have been to places that I have thought of as paradise. Neither time I was alone but it would be hard to experience and enjoy alone. I guess I would like to picture Adam in the midst of this glorious and beautiful place we call Eden. Since at that point he was without sin he walked and talked with God. I see Adam saying God this is great but I am kind of lonely in this garden. So what does God do he sends Eve his way to complete him. I do not know how long after God created Adam he created Eve but it must have been long enough for Adam to sense a need for a mate.

So what does this mean for mean for me? For me it means that I can be alright with telling people that I want to get married and my dream job is to be a wife and mother and helper to my mate. A women once stated and I agree her that we have been doing this all wrong, “I have been looking for a man to fit with my career, rather than looking to help him succeed at his. My true ambitions had nothing to do with my job but all I have ever really wanted was to be a wife. Not just any wife but a Proverbs 31 wife.”

All the single ladies: We are suitable woman for someone! We are someone’s Eve. There is some wonderful man walking around this world loving, glorifying, and honoring God. This mans life might be perfect and close to paradise. Maybe someday this guy will be on a walk praying and talking to God like Adam was in the garden and telling God he is alone and in need of a companion. One day he will send Eve to complete him. Just like Adam in Genesis 2 God will awake man from his deep sleep of singleness and wake him to his Eve. May all of us as single ladies be given the patience and trust until God awakes our Adam from his deep sleep of singleness.